Q&A

1. Why is AND focused on Asian or mixed Asian men?
Asian men often face stereotypes that unfairly portray them as less desirable in the dating scene, particularly in Western contexts. These misconceptions—regarding height, physical appeal, or personality—have contributed to Asian men being underrepresented and undervalued in many social spaces. Even within the Asian community, Asian women often gravitate toward other ethnicities. Our goal is to create a niche where Asian men feel seen, appreciated, and empowered. In contrast, men from other ethnic backgrounds have broader opportunities to express themselves and explore their sexuality. We believe Asian men deserve the same space.

2. Why are non-Asian women welcome?
There is a significant imbalance between male and female participants in lifestyle spaces, with men often far outnumbering women. If we were to limit participation to only Asian women, this ratio would be even more skewed. By welcoming women from all backgrounds, we also aim to provide an opportunity for them to experience and appreciate the qualities of high-value Asian men—potentially challenging common stereotypes.

3. What is the flow of the event?
Participants who are approved for the event will first take a shower on-site. A quick, non-invasive visual inspection will be conducted by the organizer to ensure cleanliness and check for any visible signs of STDs. Afterwards, there will be a social mingling period, followed by the main event.

4. Why is there a quiz requirement?
The quiz is designed to ensure all members are familiar with the club’s rules and expectations. It's important that everyone understands and respects the guidelines—there’s no room for "I didn’t know" excuses.

5. Why do I need to join the social media group?
Our social media server offers a discreet and secure way for members to connect, share thoughts, and get to know one another before attending events. It protects your privacy while giving organizers a sense of whether you’re a good fit for the community. It’s also a space to build trust and camaraderie. Please remember to be patient, respectful, and considerate.

6. Why is recent STD testing required?
Your health and safety are our top priorities. All participants must submit proof of a recent STD test (taken within 3 months of the event date) before being approved. We strive to provide a safe, trustworthy environment where everyone can feel at ease.

7. Why is there no upper age limit as long as participants are 21+?
Our events are about enjoying life and connection, and many people remain active and vibrant well into their later years. Older participants often bring valuable experience, emotional maturity, and relationship skills to the table, which enrich the overall dynamic.

8. Why is there a BMI requirement?
This club is curated for individuals who share similar mindsets and preferences, including body type. It's natural for people to be drawn to others who look or feel similar to themselves. We believe that aligning these preferences enhances comfort and overall enjoyment.

9. How safe is AND?
We enforce strict safety protocols that go above standard lifestyle event practices. These include mandatory condom use for all penetrative activities (without exception), recent STD testing, and a required pre-event shower with a visual hygiene check. These measures ensure a clean, respectful, and safe experience for all.

10. Where are the events held?
Events are primarily hosted in the South Bay, East Bay, and Peninsula areas.

11. What is the donation amount for events?
Event donations vary depending on the venue, food, drinks, and setup. Typically, the range is $130–$200 for men and $30 for women.

12. Why is the donation lower for women?
This reflects basic supply and demand. Female participation is essential for a balanced and enjoyable experience, and lower donations encourage a better gender ratio.

13. Is AND a profit-driven organization?
No. We are a community of like-minded individuals exploring a shared lifestyle. While we are not profit-focused, donations help support operational costs and keep the club running smoothly.

14. Is AND a swinger club? 

No, we welcome single and couples. 

15. Why do I need to submit ID for Silver Membership?

There are two main reasons: First, to verify that all participants are 21 years of age or older. Second, to ensure we can accurately identify members if any incident occurs.